Moms, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Today I’m going to help you learn how to fill it by following some Biblical self care basics. Keep in mind that self care is necessary for Christians, but selfishness is just the opposite.
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Getting and Staying Healthy
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
1 Cor. 6:19-20, ESV
Your body is meant to be valued as a treasure that God purchased with His own son’s blood. It’s amazing how much our bodily health matters to God. We’re supposed to treat our bodies as respectfully as we would a temple. After all, the Holy Spirit resides there.
Now I have as much struggle as the next person keeping up with doctors appointments, eating for health alone, and getting active (in ways that don’t include running after children.) Moms, we don’t have tons of time and taking care of ourselves is often the first thing to slide.
But treating our bodies as a temple is a challenge that’s worth the effort. Let’s put this a bit higher up on our list of priorities so that we can keep up the good work of mom life.
Your Prayer Life
And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.
Eph. 6:18, NIV
This verse says it all! God’s word challenges us to remain in communication with God at all times. We’re to be looking for needs that we can cover in prayer, to do His will and please Him, and to lift up all the Lord’s people.
Jesus often retreated to a lonely place to spend time with God, and we should do the same. I know this is another area of self care that’s really difficult for moms to keep up with, and I completely sympathize. It doesn’t help that we often feel bad about our lack of prayer time. Heaping false guilt over a struggle we have always makes matters worse!
So, with all the grace I can possibly throw at you, remember that prayer is simply talking with God. If you aren’t willing to carve out a quiet time in order to pray, at least keep your connection with God in the ON position. He’s always there, ready to hear you.Keep your connection with God in the ON position. He's always there, ready to hear you. #prayer #selfcare Click To Tweet
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
We need each other. God definitely made us to exist in relationships: mother and child, wife and husband, sister and brother, and moms and mom friends. Part of self care is nurturing our relationships and keeping them healthy.
Is a mom’s night out part of self care? I think so! But this principle goes much deeper than fun with friends, as God shares in Proverbs 18:24 (above) that our own health and abundance in life is closely connected with the kinds of relationships we have.
If you have unreliable friends, you will come to ruin. It’s right there in the Bible! Take the measures you need to take so that you’re surrounded by people who care enough about you that they can be there for you.
Moms, we can struggle with this concept, because we know that family comes first and we are just plain busy. We hate it when we don’t seem like the reliable friend because something comes up with our kids or our schedules.
But little things here can make the difference: a phone call or a thoughtful text message goes a long way. Nurture the relationships that you can depend on, and remember that we all go through busy seasons, and God has grace for you. Your self care routine depends on friendships.
Me Time and Spiritual Refreshing
But I have calmed and quieted myself,
I am like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child I am content.
As moms, we know the big difference between a weaned child and one who’s not. A weaned child doesn’t rely on someone else for their satisfaction and nutrition, a nursing baby will literally claw at you to get what they need. So just like your big kiddo who can drink from a cup, God’s desire for us is to be content and calm in our spiritual lives, able to have peace and maturity without the crying and scratching.
To the weaned child his mother is his comfort though she has denied him comfort. It is a blessed mark of growth out of spiritual infancy when we can forego the joys which once appeared to be essential, and can find our solace in him who denies them to us: then we behave manfully, and every childish complaint is hushed.
Contentment, calm, and quiet are things that are good for our hearts to feel and for us to pursue. But God doesn’t seem to feel the need to encourage us to pursue “me time” a whole lot.
I think that’s because we naturally crave those moments, and we do find ways to fit it into our lives one way or another. God’s word is full of lots of encouragement to have peace, trust Him, relax our grip on life, and lay down our burdens. He understands that we’re stressed and we need help to trust Him more. We also need encouragement to not be selfish, to be motivated by pleasing God and not ourselves.
Self care, by the world’s standards, is self indulgence. But Christian self care is actually all about discipline. As Christian moms, self care is definitely an essential for us to be effective and fulfilled parents. We should be disciplined in pursuing health, taking time to spend with God, and experiencing some times of spiritual refreshing.
For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.
1 Timothy 4:8, NIV
If you’re truly struggling to pamper yourself at all, then here’s your encouragement to buckle down and give yourself a manicure. You should not feel guilty about caring for yourself, including for your appearance. Having confidence in yourself and showing that you know your worth goes hand-in-hand with doing a few simple things to look like the peaceful woman that you are on the inside.
Just remember that God doesn’t look to outward appearances, and neither should we. You’re beautiful because you’re made in His image, fearfully and wonderfully knit together, and you are worth more than you can imagine.
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
And I have a feeling your heart is beautiful.
I’m praying you nurture your health, prayer life, relationships, and down time according to God’s will. He adores you, and He truly wants you to take care.
If you’re interested in a really complete list on this topic, check out my post on Essential Self Care for Moms.