Hi, I’m a Stressed Out Mom of a Toddler
I might has well have that stamped on my forehead.
Fellow toddler moms, let me tell you a story involving a ramp. You know that where there’s a ramp and a toddler, all bets are off. There I was, walking with my mother-in-law and two kiddos past what I thought was a nondescript building on our way to meet my husband Ry and his dad.
It wasn’t too pleasant out, the kids had been rowdy, and everyone was hungry for lunch. I thought we’d walk the two blocks and come up with a plan that involved a club sandwich.
But the ramp was there, calling to my two-year-old, beckoning her to ascend new heights before I could notice. So both of my kids were off on a magical game of chase, running in a loop, because–lo and behold–the ramp led to a set of stairs. They could follow the stairs down and find themselves back at the bottom of the ramp, and this is how the whole town heard me yell at my kids.
The circles wouldn’t stop! The children wouldn’t listen! The line for crinkle-cut fries was only getting longer!
So, moms, I want you to know the exact place I’m coming from when I share these thoughts. I don’t like to brag, but I’m no stranger to weakness. If you’ve ever felt guilty over yelling at your kids or other times you lost your cool, I get it.
Stressed out Moms in Need of Grace
How to Recover from a Time You Lost Your Temper
1. Give Yourself Grace
It’s impossible to parent without fault. Kids have a natural talent for putting our weakness on display, and honestly, we should probably be thanking them for it.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV
Does reading that verse make anyone else feel a whole lot better? The only way to perfect God’s power is to reveal your weakness. Our parenting is made perfect when we’re resting in Him. If you’ve already messed up, grab on to grace and decide you’re going to see your kids and yourself through the lens of God’s astonishing forgiveness.Kids have a natural talent for putting our weakness on display, and honestly, we should probably be thanking them for it. Click To Tweet
2. Lay Down Your Burdens
I know from personal experience that it helps to lighten up spiritually as well as emotionally. Exchange your stress and burdens for a lighter load.
Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
Matthew 11:29-30, NIV
Perspective is an amazing gift that’ll help you keep a lighter attitude toward the little things. God doesn’t want us to bear heavy burdens, so remember that Jesus is gentle and humble, and that’s the kind of weight we should be carrying.
3. Don’t Assume You’re Being Judged
When your weakness is just plain out there, you’d probably like to find the nearest corn field to disappear into. (Sorry, Iowa native, Field of Dreams lover.) I’m extra prone to needless embarrassment, as well as committing both awkward foibles and mommy blunders out in the open, so trust my advice.
I’ll say it again- Please, don’t assume you’re being judged.
Other moms have been there before and are most likely completely sympathizing with you or are even impressed at how you’re handling yourself.
Even if it’s clear you’re screwing up, take a breath and remember this: Your heavenly Father is the only one who has an opinion that matters here.
And guess what? He gets you. He has compassion for you.Hold your head high when it comes to your weakness. You're a forgiven daughter of the King who is deeply loved! Click To Tweet
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4. Be On Your Way
Any Daniel Tiger moms out there? Remember “Flush, and Wash, and Be On Your Way”? This phrase comes from a little song about going potty that we’ve been singing around my house since the dawn of my kids’ potty training, roughly two years ago. And it’s random and weird, but it’s also kind of applicable here.
If you’ve just had a weakness-exposing moment, here’s how you can be on your way.
- Ask for forgiveness from your kids, God, and anyone else you may have hurt.
- Wash yourself in God’s grace and let his power rest on you.
- Shake of any shame and be on your way.
Sometimes I feel like being a godly mom is extremely difficult, when I’m looking at my flaws. Other times, it seems so simple to depend on God and be transformed by His spirit. I pray that you choose forgiveness and grace so that you can grow in your relationship with the Father. We all sin, mamas, and we all have a Rescuer.
So hold your head high. You’re a daughter of the King who is deeply loved and understood. Especially where ramps are involved.