To be completely honest, I need an attitude adjustment right now. Even though my kids are a huge blessing, I’ve forgotten how to be a happy stay at home mom.
I don’t really want to run around the house pretending with them, breaking up squabbles, and helping them share and be kind as they play. I’m driven by results, and being surrounded by a messy kitchen and undone tasks is what I’d like to change right now.
There is no finish line to the hard work of parenting. As someone who worked full time for 15 years before having kids and staying home with them, that fact can be unsettling.
Sometimes I’d rather focus on easy wins, throwing teddy grahams on the table while I put a load of laundry in so I can feel like I accomplished something. I want to see results and create a wonderful home atmosphere while my kids happily color in silence.
But then again, I don’t. I know in my heart of hearts that having a quiet, comfortable home would get old fast. The tears from losing a toy, the shouts of little ones chasing each other with dinosaurs, and the fits of over-tired kiddos are all evidence that something is being accomplished here:
My kids are growing and learning.
Their existence is a miracle that I sometimes take for granted. I mean, it’s hard to be constantly amazed and grateful for this role I have. Here’s how I choose to have a better attitude and understand the value of a stay at home mom, even in the face of crazy stress.
How to Be a Happy Stay at Home Mom
The weirdest thing happens when I change my focus. Spending an hour pretending with my kids is fun. And afterwards, they play nicely together while I spend a half hour in the kitchen. When I put my kids before my chores, everyone is happier and the chores get done anyway.When I put my kids before my chores, everyone is happier and the chores get done anyway. Click To Tweet
It’s even more miraculous when I keep my eyes on God first. He designed life to work best this way, knowing we’ll find life as soon as we lose it.
God gets the glory when you stay focused.
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
Jeremiah 29:13, NIV
Jesus tells us to put God first and to love others sacrificially. He knew this would be tough. He lived this out so that we could be forgiven when we don’t.
But when we do? Magic happens.
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.
Luke 12:31, NLT
The little things grate at us so much more when we’re thinking about when and how we’re going to accomplish them. But they don’t get to have power over us! They don’t deserve a second thought from us.
We keep looking to the Lord our God for his mercy, just as servants keep their eyes on their master, as a slave girl watches her mistress for the slightest signal.
So do your best to be present while you play with your kids, multitasking less and choosing to do one thing at a time. Every one of us can be the Christ-centered mom we want to be. It’s not for someone else, it’s for you. The truth is that God loves you, knows you, and just wants to be your true Father.Jesus tells us to put God first and to love others sacrificially. He knew this would be tough. He lived this out so that we could be forgiven when we don't. Click To Tweet
God Won’t Let You Down
If you’re struggling to remember how to be a happy stay at home mom, you’re not alone. I know that living out my priorities, putting God first, and focusing on my kids before my own desires, is probably the greatest spiritual challenge I’m facing in this stage of mommyhood. I’m betting it’s tough for you, too.
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Romans 12:2, NLT
But I want you to know that God’s right there for you, understanding how tough it is, and preparing rewards for your work. He’s going to refresh your attitude and help you be a more patient and sacrificial mom, because that’s the kind of God He is.
Trust me, I have experience in this area, and I can say with confidence that God has never let me down! He challenges me, and then helps me through those challenges with every step.
Keys to Being a Happy Stay at Home Mom
These are the things I hold on to when I’m really struggling in my daily life as a mom. They are what I hope to do every day.
- Be present and play with your kids.
- Multitask less and stay focused.
- Completely rely on God’s strength.
- Take a minute with God.
Taking a minute to pray, to read the Bible, to listen to a worship song are all things that can help you feel renewed and less stressed. I know that when I’m stressing about getting everything done, it’s really challenging to stop and spend a minute with God.
Sometimes mom life means feeling like everything and everyone is clamoring for your attention at once. But even though stepping back is the hardest thing to do sometimes, it’s what will feed your spirit.
All I know is that God makes me a better mom. When I’m not perfect, it’s okay because He’ll always be my father, even when I’m parenting someone else. His grace, peace, and hope are what I cling to on the hard days.
Moms, worldly things will fight for your attention every day. But keep your eyes on Him, sacrifice your own desires, and you’ll reap the rewards every time.