Our husbands can offer us a really helpful perspective when it comes to our lives at home. After all, they know just enough about what a stay-at-home-mom does to be dangerous.
My husband knows I do things like…
- teaching kids
- parenting kids
- making meals
- shopping and errands
And Ry has a good idea of what these things entail, because he’s done all of them here and there. When I’m feeling discouraged about my day, my attitude, my lack of accomplishments, or my parenting fails, Ry is really understanding.
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He knows SAHM life is hard. He believes completely in the value of a stay-at-home mom. And while he doesn’t know what my exact daily experiences are, he’s the perfect observer and encourager for me.
In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.1 Peter 3:7
I like to brag about my husband, but I also want you to know he isn’t perfect and neither is our marriage. That said, he’s a good father and husband, and he treats me with understanding.
So try this out: Ask your husband for his perspective on what you do. Tell him about what discourages you and where you’re struggling with life at home. When you’re having a bad day, tell him.
When I do this, I get a sympathetic hug and, once the kids are in bed, a conversation about what could be helpful for me and the kids at home. Sometimes we’ve implemented a tweak to parenting methods, schedule changes, or other super helpful ideas.
What a Stay-at-Home-Mom Does
But maybe my favorite times are simply when Ry is there for me and gets it. Usually what I’m looking for is for him to say, “Wow, I can’t believe everything you do in a day,” or “you handled that really well.”
Because if anyone understands the ins and outs of your particular challenges and navigating parenting with your unique children, it’s your husband.
I promise he can get it, even though there are things he doesn’t know.
He doesn’t know that today you woke up late because your toddler had a bad dream and you both slept in, scrambled to make breakfast, swept the kitchen floor, figured out dinner, broke up another fight over a Paw Patrol toy, prayed for patience, knocked out a mid-morning bath for the kids, taught your daughter to trace a line and your son to spell, worried about the status of your pantry and whether you need to go to the grocery store again, re-washed yesterday’s load of clothes…and it’s only 10 AM.
He may not truly know what it is that a stay-at-home-mom does, but that helps him feel a bit more in awe of what you’re able to do. And even if it’s just making sure everyone is fed and you read one book together today, well, he can help you see that’s a WIN.
Go read my friend Kishona’s post SAHM Life, as Told By a Dad for more insights!
And if you could use a little more understanding in your mom life, I’m here for you too! I created this blog to lift up other moms, so I’d love for you to browse my encouraging posts right here.